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Free · Takes 5 minutes

Get the free 5-minute diagnostic to understand what’s happening when anxiety hits

Identify your nervous system pattern so the next spike makes sense instead of spiraling.

This isn’t a thinking problem. Your body reacts first. Your mind just tries to explain it.

Built for men, also useful if you’re a partner trying to understand what’s happening.

10 simple questions
Your dominant anxiety pattern, clearly explained
A “use this first” reset for anxiety spikes

You’ll also get a short “When Anxiety Hits” reset you can save for later.

Private. Practical. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime.

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Get the PDF + reset by email so you have it when the next spike hits.

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Want to see your type right now instead? The interactive version is below. Jump to the quiz →

No reading marathon. You’ll pick one tool and use it the next time you spike.

Interactive Diagnostic

Answer 10 quick questions. This is about how your nervous system reacts under stress (and why your mind spirals after). You’ll see your type on this page. If you want the PDF + reset, you can email it to yourself after.

You’ll see your type on this page. The email includes the full PDF + the 2-page “when anxiety hits” reset.

Go with your first instinct. Don’t overthink.

Rate each from 0–3:
0 – Never
1 – Sometimes
2 – Often
3 – Almost Always

1. Do you get intrusive thoughts about your partner cheating or hiding something?

0 Never 1 Sometimes 2 Often 3 Almost Always

2. Do you replay conversations in your head to check for “red flags”?

0 Never 1 Sometimes 2 Often 3 Almost Always

3. Do you feel anxious or unsettled when you don’t get immediate reassurance?

0 Never 1 Sometimes 2 Often 3 Almost Always

4. Do you frequently check your partner’s mood, tone, or body language for signs something is wrong?

0 Never 1 Sometimes 2 Often 3 Almost Always

5. Do you avoid bringing up issues because you don’t want to seem needy or insecure?

0 Never 1 Sometimes 2 Often 3 Almost Always

6. Does your anxiety get worse when you feel disconnected, distant, or busy?

0 Never 1 Sometimes 2 Often 3 Almost Always

7. Do you swing between wanting closeness and wanting space?

0 Never 1 Sometimes 2 Often 3 Almost Always

8. Do you feel embarrassed or ashamed about needing reassurance?

0 Never 1 Sometimes 2 Often 3 Almost Always

9. Do you mentally test your partner’s reactions to “prove” they care?

0 Never 1 Sometimes 2 Often 3 Almost Always

10. Does your anxiety make you pull away emotionally or shut down?

0 Never 1 Sometimes 2 Often 3 Almost Always

Answer all 10 to see your type.

Your type

This pattern shows what your nervous system does when it’s in alert mode.

If this feels accurate, you don’t need to do anything right now. Just notice when this pattern shows up again.

This is a pattern label, not a clinical diagnosis. It’s meant to be useful, and fast.

Email this to yourself (so you have it during the next spike)

The email includes your full PDF breakdown + the 2-page “What to Do When Anxiety Hits” reset.

Private. Practical. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime.

You don’t need to “complete” anything. Pick one tool and use it the next time you spike.

Quick self-check: If you’ve tried “communicate more,” “trust more,” or “just stop thinking” and it didn’t stick, it’s usually because your body is reacting first, and your mind is scrambling to explain it.

What you need next:

What makes it worse:

Read this first. Don’t try to fix it. Just notice the pattern your body runs when it goes into alert mode.

What this diagnostic gives you: a clear label for your pattern.
What it does NOT do: retrain your body to stop firing the same loop automatically.

If this shows up weekly (or under stress), “more insight” usually stops helping. The next step is a repeatable response system for the first 30 seconds of a spike.

The Reset is a 3-part system:
1) Interrupt the spike (stop the “must act now” urge)
2) Re-anchor reality (separate story from evidence)
3) Respond like a steady man (scripts + actions that don’t feed the loop)

Why this works when “talking about it” doesn’t: talking helps you understand the pattern. This trains what to do in real time when your body is in threat mode.

Type-matched tools (so you stop using the wrong fix for your wiring)
In-the-moment scripts for high-anxiety “Are we okay?” situations
7-day reset (optional) to build a calmer baseline fast

Most guys notice the shift the first time they use the right tool instead of trying to think their way out.

This isn’t for you if you’re looking for reassurance, proof, or a way to control your partner. It’s for you if you want control over your reactions.

Want something lighter first? Use the 3-minute reset during your next spike. Start here →

Want the full system that retrains your response in real time?

Most people don’t decide here. They come back when the spike hits.

See how the Full Reset works

Most guys don’t buy on a calm day. They come back during the next spike. If sleep, focus, or the relationship is already getting hit, don’t wait for another one.

This doesn’t always look like anxiety, but it is

You replay conversations after they happen
You read into tone, timing, or energy shifts
You feel uneasy even when things seem fine
You don’t want reassurance, but silence feels worse

These aren’t personality flaws. They’re nervous system patterns, and you can stop them from running the show.

What you’ll get in 5 minutes

A clear label for how your anxiety actually shows up
Why your brain jumps to worst-case relationship stories
What you’re unknowingly using to feel safe (reassurance, distance, or control)
A simple “use this first” reset for anxiety spikes

Your results plug straight into a real system

This diagnostic gives you orientation. The Relationship Anxiety Reset gives you execution. It’s built for the moment your body spikes and your brain starts building a case.

If you want to stop relying on willpower, the Reset gives you a simple sequence to run: interrupt the spike → re-anchor reality → respond without feeding reassurance or shutdown.

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